When elementary students (who had been taught about choice theory) were asked “What is choice theory about Thanksgiving?” this is what they had to say.
“If the need for survival is about food, well, Thanksgiving is about food.” Nash, 6th grade
“I get to stay up as long as I want during vacation and staying up late is in my quality world. Well, not as late as I want . . . but late.” Molly, 5th grade
“I love my aunts and uncles and I feel like I belong when I am with my cousins.” Megan, 4th grade
“My freedom need is thrown out the window during Thanksgiving break, since I am trapped in a car forever driving to my grandparents house.” Dak, 8th grade
“I let Aunt Helen kiss me. I think that’s love.” Ryan, 3rd grade
“It’s deadly habits day at my house. My mother always invites a lot of people over and she’s all freaked about the food situation, and then my dad is spaced out watching football all day. Not a good situation.” Becky, 7th grade
“I feel powerful when I help my mother make a lot of pies.” Kalin, 4th grade
“My dad gets a couple of days off of work so my fun need is met being with him.” Brett, 5th grade
“Mashed potatoes and turkey are need-satisfying on so many levels.” Grady, 8th grade
“I think about how much I have when so many other people have so little. It’s not right when people’s survival need isn’t being met.” Heather, 5th grade
“People bring us bags of food, which is nice. But it’s a little embarrassing, too. It doesn’t feel very powerful when you need people to bring you food.” Amy, 7th grade
“Black Friday is about chaos. Wait a minute, chaos isn’t a basic need.” Darcy, 8th grade
“I get a good feeling when I think about Thanksgiving leftovers. What choice theory thing would that be about? Quality world pictures? Yeh, that’s it.” Brad, 7th grade
“My parents seem to get along better during Thanksgiving. I guess that’s love and belonging, right? Or maybe the caring habits. Whatever it is, I like it.” Madelyn, 6th grade
“Everything would be good about Thanksgiving if it wasn’t for the yams. I do not feel powerful and I do not feel free because of the yams.” Ethan, 3rd grade
“Thanksgiving is about love! That’s just it.” David, 1st grade
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