One of the great insights that we gain from choice theory is the realization that we are constantly in the process of creating our reality. It is difficult to overstate the importance of this concept, since all of our views, our fears, our responses, and our plans are based on our perception of reality.
In a sharp, concise TED talk, Issac Lidsky explains “how what we see is a unique, personal, virtual reality that is masterfully constructed by our brain.” He acknowledges that what we see can change how we feel, but he goes further by also explaining that “what you feel can change what you see.” Citing fascinating studies he points out how subjects’ estimates as to how fast a man was walking was influenced by whether or not they were shown a picture of a cheetah or a turtle; or that subjects believed that a hill was steeper if they had just exercised; or that a landmark appeared farther away when subjects were wearing a heavy backpack. His 11 minute talk follows –
Coming from his own amazingly unique perspective, Lidsky makes a strong case for the way in which “we create our own reality.” Because of this he urged his audience to “hold themselves accountable for every moment and every thought.” This view is one of choice theory’s most important contributions. William Glasser didn’t invent the way in which we create our own reality, but he was one of the early “recognizers” of it. Isaac Lidsky is one of the many who are also recognizing this feature of our human design.
The only thing worse than being blind
is having sight with no vision.
Helen Keller
Consider showing this TED talk to your middle school or high school students. Afterward viewing it, you might consider processing some of the following questions with them –
+ Helen Keller once said that “The only thing worse than being blind is having sight with no vision.” Does Isaac Lidsky have vision and if so, provide examples.
+ What did Lidsky mean when he said that we create our own unique, virtual reality?
+ To what extent do you agree with Lidsky that what we feel can change what we see?
+ What does it mean to hold ourselves accountable for every thought?
+ At one point during his early life, Lidsky referred to his view of his life being “a fiction of his fears.” Is his story just one more feel-good yarn, or is he on to something? To what extent do you relate to the possibility that your view of things is a fiction born of your fears?
Hold yourself accountable for every thought.
Isaac Lidsky
============================================
Another excellent video that demonstrates reality being a product of our own creative interpretation is the Season 1: Episode 1 edition of Brain Games, entitled Watch This. Very well done. Your students will be impressed. Lots of material to talk about afterward, as well as a lot of activities to try in your own classroom. You can easily access the episode on Netflix.

=============================================
On a personal note –
Ok, so I have recently been diagnosed with a non-Hodgkins form of lymphoma, a cancer known as Waldenstroms, named after a Swedish physician who discovered the disease in 1944. Waldenstroms (WM) is rare, affecting approximately 1,500 people a year in the US (which represents 1/10 of 1% of the 1.6 million people who are diagnosed with cancer in the US each year). It is incurable, but treatable. It affects the body’s ability to create mature, healthy blood cells. In my case, due to a bone marrow biopsy, they know that 70% of my cells are affected by the lymphoma. One of the results of this condition is a lower amount of energy, which I have been experiencing for some time.
I have kept on the run this summer, though – teaching summer school classes, and giving choice theory in-services in Oregon, North Dakota, and Indiana, as well as presenting at a choice theory conference in Japan – and I plan on that to continue. My energy is lower, but not gone. Over the coming weeks I will be considering treatment approaches and schedules. Because we are looking at an immunotherapy approach, rather than a chemotherapy approach, I hope not to miss work or other appointments.
The reality of the situation is still sinking in, but I have incredible support from family and close friends. My faith is strong, which is the most important thing, however I know that my choice theory beliefs will also contribute to my working through this, wherever it may lead.
Like Jesus says –
Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world. John 16:33
Jim I know your faith and ability to control only what you have control over will be with you on your new journey. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Even from the other side of the world, your thoughts are an encouragement to me. You have reminded me to consider, “What do I or can I control right now?”
How like you, Jim, to place your body physiology condition in the context of the wider world, choice theory, and implications for living well. But as I read through this posting, your diagnosis jumped out at me, as though written in red neon with fireworks all around. My spouse fought a similar battle a year ago, is now cancer free, and something does happen in terms of perception and how one sees the world. I suppose we need both faith and science at times like these. You are very dear to the Glasserian/Choice Theory Family. (I always used to say to ask the Irish nuns to pray as their prayers seemed to have a direct route!). Please know you are ever gentle on my mind……
Thank you, Suzy! My goal was to let people know in a rather low-key way. Hadn’t intended the red neon with fireworks effect, but I treasure your empathy and support a lot. I have been dealing with symptoms and tests and test results for some months now, and I think it has affected my desire and ability to write for The Better Plan blog. As the future comes into focus, at least in terms of the diagnosis and the treatment strategy (whatever it will be), maybe it will release me to get back to writing.
Very glad to hear about your spouse’s experience and the fact that he is cancer-free now. Very cool!
I like your phrase – “I suppose we need faith and science at times like these.” It is amazing that science can look at my marrow and blood and see the problem that is playing out at a microscopic level. It is amazing, too, that faith can provide a compass when navigation appears impossible and a calm – often in the early morning, often through wet eyes – when fear knocks on the door.
Should I assume that the phrase “you are ever gentle on my mind” is an Irish saying? Regardless, it is a wonderful way to express connection and support.
I am so sorry. The best is yet to come. You will be in my prayers as you make the choices ahead. You have made a difference is so many people’s lives.
“The best is yet to come.” I love it!
Jim,
as I was meditating on this, the thought occurred to me that maybe Bill would want you to read Norman Cousin’s book “Anatomy of an Illness.” Just a thought…..
Love from Suzy H-B
Jim I love reading your blogs – they always get me thinking outside my own little box.. I wish you a healthy outcome in your current journey and hope that you are able to monitor your energy levels and not push yourself too hard. You will be in my prayers. You contributions to Choice Theory are very highly valued. Take care
Sheryl Matwijkiw
So kind of you to reach out to me, Sheryl.
You have been a part of the blog family almost from the beginning. I have always appreciated your cooments and support.
As far as my condition, I am not able to ride up the mountain on which I live on my bike, but I am able to carry on with all the common demands of teaching and the chores at home. Waiting now to find out about the treatment strategy. I’m optimistic.
Blessings to you!
I’m so sorry to hear of this Jim.
For the last few years I have been thinking of your words as the spirit of Bill living on.
Ken Lyons.
Thank you, Ken, for your care and support.
I think you mentioned something a great many of us want, that being the spirit of Bill’s ideas continuing to have an influence and make a difference in people’s lives. I am confident this will happen for two reasons – 1) Bill did such a good job of articulating the truth about human motivation and behavior, and 2) the “truth” he tapped into isn’t going away; our internal control design is a fact that we can’t ignore.
I prayed this morning that I will not only be able to talk a good game, but also to live a good game when it comes to choice theory. Living a good choice theory game is one of the best compliments we can give to Bill’s legacy.
I’m sorry to read this, Jim. In my classroom this year we have been talking a lot about where God is when bad things are happening to us. The answer is always “THERE”. He’s in the fiery furnace, in the lion’s den, in Egypt….. Whether in good times or in bad times He is always there. We talk about how His presence in all times and all circumstances is what gives us the peace, joy, patience, and love that is unearthly. My prayer is that you know and feel Him with you.
You’re an inspiration, and you’ll be in my thoughts and prayers.
I am very sorry to hear about you illness. jesusbalsonsays, God does not give you more the you can bear.
Divine blessing
Thank you for your concern and encouragement. God is good!