What to Teach Your Kids Before They Leave Home
Reminder and Invitation
For those of you within driving distance of the Napa Valley, remember you are invited to our Choice Theory Study Group on Sabbath afternoon, September 21, from 2:00-4:00 PM at Foothills Elementary School, located just up the hill from St. Helena. The address is 711 Sunnyside Road, St. Helena, 94574. It is very easy to get to. Head north on the Silverado Trail from Napa; turn right on Deer Park Road (the blinking red light); turn right at Sunnyside Road; the school is at the corner of Deer Park Road and Sunnyside.
It would be great if by 18 every young person could do the following –
So began an article I re-discovered today while going through some old files. I am getting ready to teach a classroom management class (classes begin on Monday) and found an article I filed 12 years ago titled What to Teach Your Kids Before They Leave Home. It included a list of 12 different categories with specific skills under each one.
Cook a traditional breakfast, lunch, and dinner.
Wash and iron clothes.
Replace a button.
Throw and catch balls.
Swim half a mile and tread water for half an hour.
Hang a picture straight.
Paint neatly and be able to clean up afterwards.
Know which tools perform which functions.
Hike with friends all day.
Bait a hook.
Plan and manage a weekend camping trip.
Type with both hands.
Drive a car.
Change a flat tire.
You get the idea. There were other skills, too, things like –
Speaking before a group.
Knowing how to play a musical instrument.
Reading a map.
Knowing basic first aid.
The short article of bulleted lists drew me in and I soon was evaluating the skills the author suggested, wondering to myself if these lists really did represent the necessary survival skills for life. One category, I noticed, that was missing was a category for Psychological Skills. What do you think? Of all the categories, wouldn’t Psychological Skills be the most important one of all? Let’s add this category and answer the following question –
What Psychological Skills Would You Want to Teach Your Kids Before They Leave Home?
I really want to hear from you on this one. Let’s see what kind of skills we can come up with.
Some news on the Glasser biography!! It looks like it will be published in November. Stay tuned.
The psychological skill I want my kids to have is to be able to see themselves objectively and clearly. They need to be able to determine their motivations for choices. They need to be able to handle failure and see it as an opportunity to learn. I’m finding it hard to not write a huge list here. I’ll leave it be, but know there are more!
Love it! Thanks for getting this conversation going so quickly.
Self evaluation, knowing the seven healthy habits and USING them….
GREAt news on the book. I can’t wait!
The caring habits and the ability to effectively self-evaluate form a pretty potent combination.
Priceless self worth/value based upon our very being as a Child of God totally disconnected from production, performance, acheivement, behavior, accomplishment, status . . . . . . . .
Relational skills of connection, compassion, communication, empathy
The skills of processing and navigating emotions based on life experiences in a positive way
Glad you weighed in on this one, Tom. I’m going to bring people’s suggestions together and form a master list, along with a suggestion or two of my own, tomorrow. Stay tuned.
Mr. Amato: This list is exactly why people love you. It is also why you have been able to change and shift so many kids’ lives, from the ones who appear to be goodie-two-shoes to the ones who appear to reject everyone in their lives. Thank you for being who you are.
Megan: Understand clearly that one of the greatest gifts that can be bestowed is knowing that someone (YOU) have chosen to take the “Torch” and carry on the Mission. THANK YOU FOR BEING WHO YOU ARE! 🙂
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I really am in agreement with Tom’s input,the first thought that came to me,the Psychological skill of being aware that they have the power to choose their response to the conditions/circumstances in their life.